Most of us are brought up to tell the truth, not lie and all that sort of thing. This is highly moral and ethical and will mostly get us further and allow us to sleep nights and feel good about ourselves. Agreed?
What would be your reaction if I was to say although the above idea is very important it may also be a limitation when adhered to in a completely rigid way? Some of us may at some time, have been asked to give an opinion on something. We know deep down that to give the most honest opinion that we have will be at the very least undiplomatic and in the worst case, will sound like an overt criticism. So, this is one instance where we may decide to act in a flexible way.
There is also the teaching from many directions about visualizing what you would like to have in your life. From your current vantage point this may seem like sheer heresy to even consider anything else other than what your five senses tell you already exist in your physical reality. When you are visualizing are you ’seeing’ the truth?
When Michelangelo looked at the hunk of marble that was to become one of his delightful creations he was ’seeing’ another truth; that of his completed sculpture. Any situation where there is creativity involved such as art, invention or architectural work, requires the use of the creative imagination.
How would it be if the architect looked at a vacant block of land and said, “No! I cannot see anything there but a pile of rocks and rubble”? No building would ever be built, nor would the Angel of Michelangelo have come to fruition if ‘the truth’ was slavishly adhered to.
How many times have you not seen a person or place for a number of years and held the vision or judgment of what they were like when you last saw them? You meet them again or revisit the area and find the person or place completely different from ‘the truth’ that you were holding in your mind? So, we have yet another area where the truth can, or needs to be, flexible for peace and sanity.
Take, for instance, an arborist, an artist and a biologist viewing a particular tree. Same tree and you will be given three different viewpoints each with their own validity within the framework or construct of the perceiver.
Furthermore, when we hold a judgment of another we tend to lock them in to that particular way of our thinking. This is a limitation for them and especially for ourselves, as we will react to them as they were when we made the judgment rather than respond to them as they are now. In relationships this is called calibrated behavior. Families can exhibit this behavior when they act from the past with each other rather than letting go of this and responding without judgment to what is happening now.
So, what does one do then? Most of us probably have the flexibility to see more than one point of view and certainly avoid being locked into the past. This means in all relationships, business and social. Accept the obvious to the five senses and extrapolate from there to the possible. By doing this, you will open yourself to the marvelous opportunities of the Universe and Being.
When we are having any sort of interaction with another person or group, being aware of where our responses are coming from is a great way of being powerful. This will keep the relationship on a much healthier footing than if we allow ourselves to be stuck in past programming. It will most likely lead to easier resolution of any differences of opinion.
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